We are mid-April with May just around the corner. Tax day is behind us and we could all use a little comfort there.
April is the month of sharing hope through comfort and comfort through giving a gift. Whether homemade (see Tidings of Comfort and…Hope blog for ideas) or through time and care (see On Comforting the Sick or Injured blog post).
I would like to talk about what comfort is not. Comfort is NOT fixing, changing, nagging, lecturing, busy-ness, rearranging, blaming, taking over, or giving advice… you get the picture.
Comforting IS action but it is not an action imposed on another but rather the act of coming alongside where that person is and being there with them.
To offer consolations:
“I know it is hard right now”
“I see you are in pain”
“I’m sorry for your loss, pain, suffering.”
Like the map at the mall or amusement park that says “YOU ARE HERE”. Comfort comes and stands or sits “HERE”. So our gifts say “I see you are…HERE”. No matter how big or small, simple or elaborate, a gift of comfort is filled with hope.
“You are NOT alone”
“This too shall pass”
“Don’t give up”
We don’t have to understand it all or offer wisdom of the sages or do it perfectly. All we can offer is some hope for better days wrapped up in a small gift of comfort.
Heidi Mull, letting go of what I can’t fix…
and fixing up a small gift basket for a friend who is grieving the recent loss of her father.